Creating Circles of Excellence
Getting unstuck!
Often times in our lives we get stuck. We capture the state of being transfixed, immutable and stuck.
Being stuck has been a problem for me in my life, as I am sure that you have been stuck in your life too. Each of us are trying to define who we are, each and every day refining and redefining our self identity albeit we do this in our 20’s, 30’s, 40’s and on-wards in our adult lives.
One of my audio mentors Skip Ross in his Dynamic living series has called this “reaching the plateaus of our lives”. The plateaus where we have stopped and are no longer growing, maturing, reaching, striving, earning and learning. Be it that we are men or women, the urge to strive and to be apart of something much greater than ourselves. Perhaps call it destiny, yet this strive is there and in the strive and strife of life, we often get stuck.
We often feel relentless, yet we become tired. We often dream of other lives, yet this is the life that we are living. Time and again, the responsibilities which drive each of us can either drive us to the ground or drive us to the impossible heights of our dreams.
One of my dreams has to become a Master Practitioner and then trainer in NLP. Part of that process has coincided with other important financial and relationship goals. Perhaps you can draw a parallel to me here in your life and your own personal striving. But very often, before I learned to start to work on myself, to develop myself I found to my dismay that I had no internal resources and I had no internal structure.
It was as if I was an undefined piece of art, a rough piece of clay that needed to be molded and put into a kiln in order to heat out and dry. This was of course before I learned a technique in NLP called “Circles of excellence”.
Creating a circle of excellence!
Resources are elemental to living a productive, resourceful and powerful life. The resources that you can attain by creating circles of excellence are useful and can help you get to where you want to be in life. I have used Circles of Excellence in Business, Seduction, Sales, Training, Teaching and in Coaching sessions. What I have found is that the resources and discovery attained by using Circles of Excellence is almost unlimited and allows you to start re-engineering your life into the directions that you have wanted to achieve.
Creating a circle of excellence is easy, but first I recommend that you learn about perceptual positions in NLP on an article I wrote here and also by an article from the NLP website … Once you have mastered the Perceptual Positions pattern in NLP then you can start to create Circles of Excellence and in order to do so, do the following:
1. Vividly imagine that there is a circle in front of you on the floor.
– This circle can be of any shape, colour and size – Just so long as you can clearly see a circle beneath you on the the floor.
2. Once you have created your circle before you!
– I want you to think about something that you want to achieve. It could be to feel more energetic, more relaxed, more productive, become better at business or better at relating to others.
3. Once you have thought about what you have wanted!
– I want you to then think back to a time, a memory where you had something similar to what you wanted in Step 2. Now, begin to notice if this memory has any images, sounds or feelings associated with them and as you begin to notice these begin to walk into the circle.
4. As you walk into the circle take the memory with you!
– Begin to close your eyes starting to really feel, see and hear your memory as a state of consciousness which you are now experiencing in the circle. Once you have re-experienced the memory as a state, open your eyes and then shake it off of you and your body. Then step out of the circle.
5. After stepping out the circle!
– I will then step back in and re-experience and then test the state, I will then shake that state off and then step outside of the circle. Outside of the circle I again remember something similar to the state I just put into the circle or add another memory which I feel will enhance the state.
– What I tend to do, in the circumstance of being motivated to talk at a seminar or to coach a client is to think about a good experience with a crowd I have had before or with a coaching client. I then walk back into the circle, activate the memory and state, shake the state off. I then step out of the circle and then think of another occasion which might be similar to this.
– This similar occasion might be the feeling of satisfaction I have had after a good meal, or the image of me wining an award or my friends/family wishing me happy birthday.
I do this until I have three to four really good states, repeating steps 3-5.
– Afterwards I then step into the circle and experience all the states I put into it, I them step out of that circle and notice that the state has not gone away in fact I have taken the state with me, this leads to Step 6.
Step 6. I then look at the circle and mentally grab it!
– I put the circle into the palm of my hand and put it into my back pocket. This step is very important because I will then walk somewhere else in the room or environment I am in and take the circle out of my back pocket again. I mentally throw it back onto the ground in front of me and low and behold I re-experience the states I have put into the circle. I then walk out of the circle again and fold into my back pocket.
I have done this with so many circles that it has become second nature to me. I find that I am no longer stuck or plateauing in my life, rather I find that I am able to create new and novel experiences which help me become more productive in my lie. What is more, I find that I now have an almost unlimited series of resources which is great since I want to have as many options in my life as possible. This in NLP is called requisite variety.
In the next post I will blog post I will talk about requisite variety in greater detail.
Until then,
Count. Daniel John Fogarty