Defining your Self-Image – Part One – Using Sound and a Mirror to Define your Physiology.

Who are you? How do you see yourself in the world?

How we see ourselves in the world and how we act around others tends to define who we are in our social environment. By defining who we are, we are able to understand and create who we are. Creating who we are is vital to each of us understanding and embracing our very human social psychology.

Understanding our species social psychology is important, so too its applied effect upon our world which is just as vast and enormous. If you have read books such as Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill or the Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz then you will begin to understand what I am talking about. It is these books along with some books on NLP and depth psychology that demonstrate how you can redefine the world around you.

Understanding how to redefine the world around you, through changing your social psychology also quickly helps you begin to realize that you are mutable and that you can change yourself at any time. This definition also helps you to understand that when you change yourself, you also change the world around you. Changing yourself by changing the world around you is called Inner Game in relationships and relationship management. Inner game allows you to develop who you are and to define the life circumstances that you find yourself in. Changing yourself in order to change the world around you is also similar to the definition that occultist and magician Aliester Crowley called “Change in conformity with the will” I.e. Your will.

In this brief article you are going to be learning about creating change in conformity to your will by using a series of exercises, including mirror exercises that allow you to state your belief about the world and then by looking in the mirror at yourself – redefine these beliefs.

Mirror exercises

Look at yourself in a mirror when you first get up in the morning and take notice of what you see.

Take a good long look at your body and then your face, studying your more global features and your complexion. Once you have done this, then take note of the following:

1. How does your hair look?
2. Look at your skin and begin to notice its pigmentation.
3. Look into your eyes and see yourself looking back at yourself… What do you notice?

Write these things down.

Next look at yourself and say the following few sentences, as you do so take notice of your physiological reactions…

Exercise 1.

Firstly, take a deep breath and then looking into the mirror, say to yourself “I love you”. As you do so, begin to release your breath and watch as your facial muscles. Notice how you may begin to soften your shoulders and how they may begin to drop.

See a smile appear across your face and perhaps take notice of a sparkle in your eyes. After this, take a few breaths deep and go into the next exercise.

Exercise 2.

Take a deep breath and looking at yourself say “I hate you”. As you say this to yourself, notice now your body changes. You might notice your body begins to tighten and tense up. You might also begin to notice that you look angry, aggressive and afraid.

You may also begin to look older (think about this emotion ladies… Hate ages you!).

After taking a deep breath move on to the next exercise.

Exercise 3.

Take a deep breath and next I want you to sing to yourself, perhaps a nursery rhyme  or one of your favorite songs. Trust me, you don’t have to be a proficient singer or any good (I’m okay, you’re probably okay yourself… Unless your tone deaf). So look at yourself in the mirror and start to sing, singing activates your whole body, your whole being and yes your organism.

We are beings of sound and when we sing it changes our whole posture and our physiology.

So look at yourself and notice what changes.

What changes?

Everything changes in your life when you change your physiology and your feelings. How we feel about ourselves and our life determines what we will do and what we will achieve. This is why I wanted to write the next article on defining yourself by having swag while you walk around and noticing that how you walk, definitely changes the way you feel and how others react around you.

Until the next article,

Count. Daniel John Fogarty @ reallifedevelopment.me on Wednesday the 7th of May 2014.